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Guide for buying sexy lingerie as a gift

Women love sexy lingerie. If they are not showing it off to their friends, they’ll be turning your head over the edge by putting it on. There is no better time to buy lingerie for your girlfriend than the day she’s celebrating her birthday. This is the day when many of her friends will be around to celebrate her, and a sexy lingerie gift will just make her fall in love with you the more. You however need to do it right. If you don’t want to end up creating any kind of upset instead of making your girlfriend feel happy on her birthday; here is a guide you should find useful to help you make the correct decision:

The first thing you must understand clearly is that her birthday is not the day you want to get lingerie you would love to see her wear. This is the day you should get her what you know she would love to wear; therefore you need to study her properly before you hit the stores. There is no magic you can perform to make a lady who loves leather lingerie to appreciate the lace lingerie you have bought for her. Even if she accepts it, she will feel very uncomfortable wearing it and you will notice that disapproval right at the moment she set her eyes on it. If your girlfriend is shy then don’t pick the see-through lace rather, buy her something that protects her conservativeness e.g. satins. Other lingerie fabric you can consider include polyester/polyamide, Lycra and silk – which is the safest option.

If you get the lingerie fabric choice right then you should ensure never to goof on size. Getting this wrong can set the entire universe crashing down so pay total attention to it. Your lingerie gift should neither be too big or too small; it must be of the right size ! One way to know her right size is to sneak into her wardrobe and check out the measurement on the labels of her knickers and bra. This provides the easiest way for you to get her the exact sexy lingerie without her having to try them on. If you don’t have access to these stuffs then you can try asking her close friends.

Make sure that you get her the right color. This should either be her favorite or something that matches the color of her hair. If you’re choosing hair matching lingerie then buy purple, red or teal for brunettes. Pastels will be excellent for the blondes while redheads will be comfortable with green and blue. Make sure you understand her preferred style. Use the knowledge you have about what part of her body she loves most to determine what you should buy e.g. a lady who admire her legs should get babydoll dresses that will make her pins shine. Never buy her everyday lingerie because it doesn’t qualify as a gift. Knowing when she’s most likely going to wear it can also be of immense benefits. Suspender, thongs, bra and stockings will be awesome if she’s going to wear it under her dress on night outs, while camisole and sorties will be excellent for her to wear as she lazy on a couch on a sunny Sunday morning.

How To Make Friends During Maternity Leave

While chatting to a fellow mum at a playgroup about how we keep the kids entertained all day, she exclaimed ‘I’ve never had such a busy social life since I became a mum!’ It struck me that my own experience was quite different. While I was expecting my daughter, several friends of mine who’d had babies told me how they had a whole new group of friends, who they had met at various mother and baby groups. So I was looking forward to spending my maternity leave with a group of new best friends, going round to each other house’s for coffee and meeting up for play dates. However, making new friends with other mums turned out to be much harder than I anticipated.

Back To Work Mums

While I made a great group of friends by joining the NCT for antenatal classes while I was pregnant, my friends all returned to work after 12 months, which left me, a stay at home mum, feeling like I was back at square one in regards to having people to meet up with during the day! I’d never had problems before making friends, whether it be at uni, or at work, but making friends with other mums is a whole new kettle of fish. It’s not because other mums are standoffish and unapproachable, far from it, at playgroups they’re normally very friendly and mums often praise each other’s children, but going from having nice chat with a mum at a group, to following through and meeting up outside the playgroup, is a massive leap. Add to that the fact that mums are the busiest people I know, often having to rush home to get chores done or pick up older children from school, and it’s hard to find people to spend your day with.

Get Out There

Looking after a child can be a very isolating experience if you don’t have friends to meet up with during the day. No matter how much you love spending time with your child, you need to have adult company too. It’s vital then when you become a new mum, to make a big effort to meet people, so you don’t become lonely. My own experience has shown me that friends don’t always just ‘happen’, you have to be proactive. Go to as many groups as you can, first time mum’s groups are great as most other mum’s will be in the same situation as you and will want to make new friends. There are also breastfeeding groups, postnatal yoga (some where you use your baby as a weight, so you don’t need a babysitter!), mother and baby swimming classes, music classes, sensory classes, and more! There are so many groups you can go to, and once you’re there, swallow your shyness and approach people. Most other mum’s will be in the same situation, and will love the opportunity to make new friends. At the end of a group, why not suggest going for a coffee, or going together to take the kids to a nearby park. Don’t worry about looking desperate, no one will think that and you might make a great new friend out of it!

After going to one particular playgroup a few times, one of the mum’s I chatted to invited me to a night out they were all having. I went along and haven’t looked back, I’ve now made a lovely group of friends, and my daughter loves spending time with the other mum’s children (another reason to make friends with other mums!) If I hadn’t gone, I wouldn’t have made those friends, so I really recommend being proactive and get talking to people!

Alternatives?

A friend of mine who also found it hard to meet other mums now she was stay at home mum, took a different approach. After going to mother and baby groups she felt too shy to approach people, so she went on netmums instead. Here you can post a message saying you’re a mum and would like to meet other mums in your area. She now has a great group of mum friends she meets up with regularly. So this is definitely worth doing if you find it too intimidating approaching people!

Alice from www.pregnancy.co.uk is trying to help people understand exactly what they can do to make friends after they have given birth!

What is love?

How much you understand your beloved is the key of success of any relationship. Everything cannot be told. If you understand your love, you can read eyes and body language. If you cannot then you are just friends.

Second indicator of love is willingness to help. Unless the next person is spouse, one cannot/ will not ask for help on every topic. But if you understand her then you can see and feel that she needs help.

Next thing which is not part of love but it makes love stronger. You should believe your love and should give sufficient freedom. Loving someone doesn’t mean owning her. She is also a complete individual. Loving someone doen’t permits you to disliked her from the social circle.  She also has sufficient right to interact with variety of people/ friends around her.

Everybody’s priorities are different. Mentalities are also different. Many things which is not good may be correct from her point of view. These mentalities may be harmful for her.  You should guide her to suppress such mentality and thoughts.

Everybody has a personal boundary in which one separate different people. The unknown comes on the corner of the circle. And most loved one comes near to the center of circle. If she loves you most, she will keep you closer to the center and allow you to come closest and be intimate.

All requirements listed above is required for loving someone. If one or two of above mentioned requirements are missing then it simply means that there is a blockage in love. For example

1)      Only understanding: You are deep observer. You know how good the person is with whom you are talking with.

2)      Only help: You are good friends.

3)      Only guidance: You are good psychologist and helper/ friend.

4)      Only intimacy: You are in lust. Once get intimate you will need more. If the intimacy is not supplemented further then your relationship is over.