You’re in love with your girlfriend, and you want to spend the rest of your life with her. That’s a big thing for any man to decide, and it’s usually not easy. But once you’ve made the decision, you probably want to get down on one knee very soon and make her your fiancée. You want to think of the perfect way to propose – something romantic and meaningful. The proposal itself is probably the hardest part. But wait. Are you getting ahead of yourself? Before you buy the ring and start coming up with a proposal plan, you need to ask yourself, “Is it the right time to ask her to marry me?”
How Long Have You Thought It Over?
The decision to marry shouldn’t be rushed, and it shouldn’t be a spontaneous, spur-of-the-moment decision. Before you ask her, consider how long you’ve wanted to do this. If you had a sudden epiphany just last week, wait a little longer before you do it. If it’s something you’ve been thinking about for months, go for it. It’s the right time as long as you’ve given it adequate thought and you truly believe you’re both ready to take this step.
What’s the Current Status of Your Relationship?
Lots of men make the mistake of proposing in order to fix a relationship. They’ve been arguing a lot with their girlfriend, and they think if they propose it will change things – that she’ll forget all about the conflicts because the proposal will make up for everything. If things aren’t going so well in your relationship, it is not the right time to propose. A proposal will not reignite your passion for each other; it might only make her angry. Make sure your relationship is strong, solid, and as great as it ever was before you ask her to marry you.
Are You Going Through Major Changes in Your Lives?
As you get closer to getting married, a lot of other things might be happening in your lives. You might be thinking about moving in together, graduating college, buying a house, looking for a job, or even dealing with something difficult like the death of a family member. If there is a lot of change currently going on in your lives, it’s not always the best time to propose. You might think that a proposal will show your commitment through it all, but you might be better off waiting until the waters have calmed.
Will She Say Yes?
If you have a serious relationship, you will usually just know what your girlfriend’s answer would be to your proposal. If you think she’d be thrilled, maybe because she’s been dropping hints or making casual comments, it’s the right time. If you’re really unsure of what she’d say, you might want to wait a little longer. If you think there’s a good chance she would say no, don’t do it because it isn’t the right time. As long as you trust your instincts, you’ll know when it is.
About Author: Michelle Leigh is a self described fashionista and expert on relationships who recently got engaged herself at a Bahamas luxury resort. She loves to blog about her knowledge of dating and often gives advice to women.
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