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Two new books on relationship

1) I Love You Even Though…
by Rebecca M. Schuler and Christine W. Regan (Andrews McMeel Publishing)
Description
Admit it–sometimes we just don’t get where our better half is coming from. Are 23 pairs of black heels–each varying in heel height, number of straps, and degrees of self-inflicted foot pain–really necessary? Does a $5,000 Bose stereo system qualify as a “home improvement”? Inside I Love You Even Though . . . , coauthors Rebecca Murray Schuler and Christine Wiesedeppe-Regan offer nearly 50 sarcastic insights on romantic rapport paired with charming, edgy line-drawn illustrations. Perfectly timed for Cupid Day gift-giving, guys and gals will find that all the important relationship topics are covered: lawn mowing, ESPN’s SportsCenter, her propensity to collect shoes in varying hues of black, and his ability to quote entire scenes from The Godfather but always forget three items on the grocery list. Although Schuler and Wiesedeppe-Regan indicate that debates will rage over the culinary merits of stuffing a beer can up a chicken’s bottom and the fine line between talking, asking, and nagging, one thing remains certain, unequivocal, and dependable–that thing is love.Sample entries include: I love you even though . . .
* You can effortlessly organize a fantasy football draft involving 12 guys, 6 cases of beer, 8 pizzas, and 5 orders of Buffalo wings, but forget to make dinner reservations for our anniversary.
* You don’t understand the financial and emotional disparity between “Coach” being printed on a handbag and “Coach” being printed on an airline ticket.
* You declare that G.I. Joe is not a doll, but rather an American icon embodying man’s primal need for social order and homeland security.
* You consider camouflage a color.
* Even though you sometimes don’t get me and I sometimes don’t get you…I love you.

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2) If You Loved Me, You’d Think This Was Cute: Uncomfortably True Cartoons About You
by Nick Galifianakis (Andrews McMeel Publishing)
Description
Everyone knows the only thing more painful than relationships is not having them–or is it the other way around? Whatever, says author and cartoonist Nick Galifianakis. In his first book, If You Loved Me, You’d Think This Was Cute: Uncomfortably True Cartoons About You, he makes the case that either way, the only recourse is to embrace our frailties and laugh.

Taken from Carolyn Hax’s nationally syndicated advice column, this compilation spins the pain of dating, mothers-in-law, “beneficial” friends and more into … the pain of self-recognition. The intricately drawn pen-and-ink panels and pointed captions explore some of life’s most uncomfortable truths, exposing the humanity in our mistakes, the underbelly of our triumphs and the sheer heroism of trying and trying again.

Throughout this character study of men and women (and the dogs who love them), Galifianakis mines our hopes and insecurities for a unifying truth: If we can’t laugh at ourselves, he’ll do it for us.

“Nick snuck me into my first comedy club when I was only a back-acned teenager. The back acne went away but the comedy stuck. I know that last sentence sounds like a lyric from a Joan Baez song, but trust me, it’s original.” –Zach Galifianakis, from the foreword

“Nick’s cartoons are funny, witty, and smart. But what makes them so special are how universal and true they are, making the laughs they bring all the more poignant. Relationships, in all their glory, have never been captured quite so succinctly and with such charm.” –Amy B. Harris, writer/producer for Sex and the City

“Nick Galifianakis understands relationships unbelievably well, for a guy. My guess is he actually menstruates.” –Gene Weingarten, two-time Pulitzer Prize winner, Washington Post humor columnist

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Book: Premarital Sex in America, How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think about Marrying

Description:

The period of young adulthood, from ages 18 to 23, is popularly considered the most sexualized in life. But is it true? What do we really know about the sexual lives of young people today?

Premarital Sex in America combines illuminating personal stories and comprehensive research surveys to provide the fullest portrait of heterosexuality among young adults ever produced. Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker draw upon a wealth of survey data as well as scores of in-depth interviews with young adults from around the country, both in and out of college. Digging underneath stereotypes and unexamined assumptions, the authors offer compelling–and often surprising–answers to such questions as: How do the emotional aspects of sexual relations differ between young men and women? What role do political orientations play in their sexual relations? How have online dating and social networking sites affected the relationships of emerging adults? Why are young people today waiting so much longer to marry? How prevalent are nontraditional forms of sex, and what do people think of them? To better understand what drives the sexual behaviors of emerging adults, Regnerus and Uecker pay special attention to two important concepts: sexual scripts, the unwritten and often unconscious rules that guide sexual behavior and attitudes; and sexual economics, a theory which suggests that the relative scarcity of men on college campuses contributes to the “hookup” culture by allowing men to diminish their level of commitment and thereby lower the “price” they have to “pay” for sex.

For anyone wishing to understand how sexual relations between young adults have changed and are changing, Premarital Sex in America will serve as a touchstone for years to come.

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Features

  • This book is the only one to pull together the authors’ and others’ analyses from the largest and best study of young adult sexual behavior at present (the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, Wave III in early adulthood)
  • The ”sexual economics” theory employed by the authors leads to bold (yet accurate) claims